Why is everyone else' bass so annoying? I like to listen to loud music sometimes. Knowing full well that others can hear it, yet I think, "maybe they'll hear something of interest, or be curious who I am"... They don't. They aren't.
My bass is just as annoying.
Which leads to the next couple realizations:
Few songs can be identified by their bass-lines.
Bassists are repetitive, not meant to be rude, it is part of the rhythm section.

Hearing loud music from someone else, makes me want to crank mine up to drown theirs... But why if it's so annoying, do I want it nearer? A simple answer would be taste and control.